ILF as Circle Time    

The Garden : ILF as a Circle Time rubric

• A. listen to the man.
• B. identify some point P of the ILF instructions that contradicts what the man is saying — but if he appears to be following ILF well on his own, let him keep going.
     (For example, he might say "John was upset" rather than "I believed that John was upset". In this instance "P" is the part of ILF that says "State only the facts of what happened.", because one does not know, objectively, that John was upset, and "Identify the [...] narratives that arose in you.".)
• C. say words to (hold space for) the man such that he can infer P and recall it
     (For example, "Identify the narrative that arose in you", or "What was the fact of what actually happened while you felt that John was upset?")
• D. witness whether the man has now added P to his schema/context
• E. repeat C as needed, and when the man has assimilated P, return to A and B.

Source: The Garden, 20260713